Readers’ Tips On Handling Abusive Relationships
April 26th, 2007
- The best and most daunting advice (from my marriage counselor after she heard the reality of my situation) was to get a restraining order, get a lawyer and get out. Forget trying to convince this guy you once loved, father of your children, that he is abusive. He doesn’t accept any negative feedback, you know this. Try to lay low, not provoke any fights until you have a plan in place to have restraining orders (stay away from wife and kids unless she says it’s ok) served, preferably when you and the kids are not home. This is what I did and I thank God I listened to professionals, otherwise I would still be miserable and my kids would be witnessing a long, dragged out, ugly mess. DO IT, ask for help, look up ALIVE, (advocates for women) and pray for stength. Get yourself FREE! It’s great and it’s only been 3 weeks.
…Becky via email, Jan 2004
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This really rings bells! Perhaps surprisingly I can report that it is not just women who are abused and drained in this way. My recent ex appears to have a range of issues which may include, but emulate Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. This became unbearable such that I had to uplift our daughter and leave the house. I am still subjected to a variety of lies which also demean others and are not in our daughter’s interest. The court are yet to decide final residency, meanwhile my daughter remains with me, though has some contact with her mother. If you are suffering, find the energy to build an escape plan and do it! they will not change for the better and you deserve a life away from the emotional “Vampire”.